Simple Spell Recs? | Ex-Friends Plaguing my Thoughts

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Very good day/night, everyone!

:warning: This one is a bit of a touchy topic for me. I do ask that you read at least some of this story before replying. <3

Some time ago, about a month or two, give or take, (my memory is poor) I had a… let’s just say ‘unsavory’ date with a Hinge match. Something very bad happened to me during that date that altered my mind and my self-image. I went to my large friend group (online) for advice and comfort. I was scared and very confused.

These ‘friends’ began to dump all these very scary suggestions at me. Things I was not ready to do in that moment. Suggestions that were certainly appropriate, but I was simply too paranoid to execute in that particular moment. So I explained that I would rather just ghost him for a bit and then remove him. Because I couldn’t even look at his profile without feeling tsunamis of emotional turmoil. IYKYK. They did NOT take this well. They switched their views just like that. They declared that I was ‘defending him’ and that I was a “dumb b*tch” (This one stung the most, as this person also then blocked me before I could even reason with them.) They began to blame me for this problem. Claiming I was ‘rushing love’ and this was ‘karma.’

This spiraled into all of them sending me paragraphs upon paragraphs in a group chat explaining how I am manipulative, lack common sense, a defender of (bad thing that happened to me), and a fake friend. (Apparently, I was ‘using’ them.) Mind you, we are all adults. This felt very, very childish, but it still hurt me. Because none of it was true. None of them seemed to understand my POV. My therapist told me they never will.

ANYWAYS. It’s been some time since I lost all these ‘friends’, yet their energies still haunt me in my sleep, in my day-to-day. I’ve cut contact with them all (and yes, with the guy too, dw. Bro is banned on that app too XD) but they still make me feel… well, like a ‘dumb b*tch’. :man_shrugging: I can almost hear them gossiping about me. I have drawn the gossip card from my oracle deck a few days in a row, actually. It was alarming.

I want them to forget about me. Or at least, take my name from their tongues (and keyboards). I’m so sick of being beaten down by words. So I guess I am asking for a spell that can do that, or block their influence from my energy. Minimal supplies would be preferred, I am not allowed to have flames in my dorm, so no incense/candles/etc. I am new and not good at making my own spells, so I hope you all will have some good points!

Thank you,
Caspian :key:

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I remember reading about a banishing ritual where you write things on tissue paper and flush

them down the toilet. I forget details, but as you say you’re not new maybe their names etc.?

Since you can’t have flames, I recommend the new LED candles. I get from second-hand stores.

They look like this and they do have a nice flickering effect. Best are the ones AA or AAA

batteries not the ‘coin’ ones. For incense subs there’s all kinds of non-burning scent things.

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Witchy Wednesday Caspian,

With all the issues here, it sounds more like you need an acceptance spell for yourself and a protection spell for yourself. When you are safe in the god/desses arms then you will be able to tackle what is attacking you. It sounds more like your spirit needs grounding in order to be able to defend itself better. I hope this works out easily enough for you.

Lady Gene :yin_yang:

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What would be a good acceptance spell?

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Wonderful Wednesday Caspian,

Self-Acceptance is akin to Self-Affirmation.

I am more of a chant and word person than I am with articles and/or stuff.

June 29 this year is a Full Moon and Strawberry Moon.

The colors are Grey, Silver, and White can be used for anything, choose a candle.

I use Nag Champa or Lavendar for my Incense.

Set your altar and set your intentions.

Beverage Self-Love: With your morning beverage as you stir your drink chant:

  • With this beverage in my grip–I grow strong with each sip

A Mirror Spell: In a dark room with a candle behind you, gaze in the mirror at yourself as you say

  • By Faith and Fire, Voice and Sign, let courage awake and purpose be mine

Affirmation for/to the Strawberry Moon

  • With this moon, strawberries in bloom; I am certain and sure, in all ways secure

An affirmation that I like to repeat throughout the day that is a guaranteed spirit lifter is:

  • I am Vital, I am Strong, I am Unique, I Belong.

Under the Full Moon: state your intent, set your gaze on the moon, raise your head and HOWL, then say: Under the moon shining bright, I declare devotion tonight: A howl so loud for all to hear, by this Moon my path is clear.

I have so many more that you may use. As for the ritual, I do not necessarily lay one out, that is for each practitioner to decide to themselves. But, I have many chants for different purposes.

I hope these will help out with confidence!!

Lady Gene :bow_and_arrow: :people_hugging:

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I second Lady Gene’s suggestion on working on self-acceptance and self-love.

Negative energy goes both ways when it hits us emotionally. There’s the element of those sending the energy - but also on the other side it’s our willingness to accept it. What you went through clearly was traumatic and that tends to distort the mind when it manifests as survivor’s guilt. If there’s a part of you that believes the accusations, you will absorb their negativity more readily.

And most importantly, that event is in the past - so working on releasing that attachment to that memory will help release you too. You could try cord-cutting with these ex-friends. You could try working on your grounding and protection, like Lady Gene said. Chanting mantras for self-healing can be highly effective - I have ones I can suggest inspired from my own practice too.

If you want to know a good entirely flame-free, tool-free self-protection ritual, I will direct you here:

Let us know if you need any clarification or further suggestions. :trident_emblem:

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