I have a friend who is in a toxic/unhealthy relationship. They have been increasingly sad and withdrawn over the past year. We have been BEST friends for over 6 years; I lived with the couple for about 3 years so I understand the dynamics pretty well.
Over time, my friend has grown exceedingly distant from me despite my best efforts to be a positive part of her life. She simultaneously says she wants to still be my friend, but ignores me and gets others to do the same.
I don’t want to use magic to “force” someone’s actions or to make them make the decision I think they should make. However, is there a spell that would bring my friend clarity and strength to see her relationship in its true light and seek help/advice? I have been watching her suffer for a long time (I’ve also pointed out these red flags to her);now they are starting to hurt other people.
I care about them so much. Despite me getting hurt so many times, I’d do anything (that is good and kind) to help her.
I use words, so here are some chants that you may be able to use.
I ban negative energy, break and erase it, set *** (the name) free
You must leave, I decree, set *** free
With glorious grace, evil leave ***'s space
If you wish use a poppet, effigy of some kind, photograph, what-have-you to represent the person you are asking help for, set all your intention to that person as you say,
Banish all who mean harm; hear these words, this my charm–I demand STAY AWAY; Now!! You heed what I say.
If you wish, you may message me personal, I have many more chants that can be used.
Rather than casting a spell on your friend you could cast one for yourself … cast glamour and summon good vibes for you - call upon your lucky stars or gods ‘‘impart forbearance to endure against perceived slights : grant perseverance and patience in times of trouble and distress’’ . Mingle with others and perhaps stop projecting your insecurities and hurt on your friend.. Your heartfelt desire to be closer may contribute to her distancing herself from you… might be that she can sense your vibe. It’s possible your best efforts to be a positive part of her life could be interpreted as invasive or unwanted meddling. A carecrow is ‘‘someone who is so devoted to fuss over their partner (or friend) that they frighten them away’’. Detach from desire, let go, give her some space and cultivate new relationships. When she finds out that you are having good times with new friends and a fresh aesthetic - it may be seen your friend returns in the capacity you now desire.
This is not magical advice but something I have a lot of experience with in my work. If your friend is truly in an abusive relationship, then one of the number one goals of an abuser is to isolate their partner from any support system. Your friend may maintain friendships outside of the abusive relationship at very great cost to herself. I say this to encourage you not to take her behavior personally and to realize that she is deep in survival mode right now. It is very difficult to watch a loved one go through this. She may need you to cheer her on from the sidelines and have your assurance that when she is ready to reengage with you she will be welcome. Otherwise the goal of her abuser has been accomplished and when she is ready to get help there will be nowhere to turn. I wish you all the best as you go through this.
There is no greater Magic than Love. So apply Love. You can do it ritually or released. So the return will be from Love.
But there is Karma and it is inexorable, the question is how things will happen and not whether they will happen. This is Freedom.
I wish you health!
Happy days!
Tihomir Valchev
