I’ve found I can’t do the magick practice I want when in a household with dv. I’ve also found I’m pretty blocked from getting out- no matter what I do, it always seems to fail. I’ve reflected, and I feel like I need two things 1) more grounding and protective magick to help me survive and stay sane in the situation and 2) magick to help me get outta here- gain independence, open roads, gain confidence and a sense of self and security. If anyone has any suggestions to look into, spells to try, protection oil, herbs to work with, and just thoughts and well wishes in general- I would so appreciate it <3
I want to know what use in my situation and thoughts on where to start with these two goals.
Thank you for reading, all the blessings to u <33333
I do not know what your situation is, but it sounds like you need to start with a self-affirmation.
This one I use all the time and it makes me feel better almost instantly.
Well met. If dv stands for what I think it means, you need to get yourself something to protect yourself with, can be a knife or pepper spray. I don’t have any spells to recommend, but I can recommend practicing fighting styles to defend yourself better. Even if it’s a cheap shot, it’ll help.
If there’s any chance that they could find out about your craft, I would be extremely careful.
Learning non-lethal self-defense is crucial. Pepper spray I think would be the best idea. Having a knife could get very ugly and land you in a costly legal battle at the very least. I would caution you against that.
Have a “getaway” plan ready to go if you need to escape quickly. Find a hotel in a city that’s outside of your current town, or see if you can stay at a friend’s place that they don’t know the location of. Conceal everything and act like everything’s normal. A road-opening/unblocking isn’t a bad idea, but ultimately it boils down to courage.
Best of luck.
Edit: Also see if there’s a women’s shelter in your area! Even in my small town we have one. I couldn’t find a national directory online, or I’d include that here. They may be able to help you with organizing your “getaway” plan too!
I agree with WrenTalbot. I’ve been where you are and a knife can make a bad situation worse, not to mention he could get it from you. Use pepper spray and the police. I don’t know where you are at, if and when the police have been called, your work or child situation. What I do know is that no person, man, woman, or child should have to sustain that kind of abuse. Have you thought about a protection order? If you can’t afford the filing fees the court can waive it, and the fees to serve him. If you decide to go that route, see if you can make him pay the bills, if you don’t work, or can’t afford your living arrangements. File for a legal separation to keep him away from you. I was a paralegal before I retired. I can’t give legal advice, but I can tell you if you call Legal Aide, and tell them your in a dv situation, they may be able to get you in sooner. Remember that no matter what his behavior is not your fault, you did nothing to deserve this, and you deserve so much better. If by chance he’s a cop, you’ll need to go above his head, and not alert the precinct he works for.
Like the Phoenix, you will rise again!!
