Hello everyone, I’ve practicing for a few years now but very low key. I wanted to do something ‘feasty’ for lughnasadh tomorrow but I’m not sure my family will be that bothered. How do you approach this - do you just ‘do you’ and if anyone wants to join then great? I’m just not one to push my stuff on other people, who I think just humour me. But it would be so lovely to be ‘out out’ if you know what I mean.
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I’ve been thinking about this too and I’m also keeping things quiet. I have an old family recipe from Ireland for bread and thought about making that. I will add my own intentions to it and my family will eat it and enjoy the bounty of the harvest. I’m not even going to bring it up. Like you, I don’t just want to be humored.
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Fabulous Friday CatW,
Is it possible to express to them that you want to celebrate and would they wish to be a part of it?
If so, wonderful. If not, I would maybe take advice from Jenny, make your food, and blessings and they do not have to be the wiser. You can also, just celebrate yourself. If they are completely against it, then I would have a party on my own. When they realize how deep your commitment is, it might make a difference to them. After all, why do you need to humor them? Sometimes, we need to stand our ground for what we believe it.
Lady Gene 
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Welcome Cat!
“Non-Believers” lol. I’ve always taken the approach of “doing me” but also being open about what I’m doing. If anyone is open minded or curious, they will want to join!
Being out of the closet has its pros and cons. By the very nature of being “unusual” you are going to attract the attention of others and it’s up to you to decide how to go about that. Some may be genuinely curious, but others will only want to judge and you’ll have to take up the task to pick out the wheat from the chaff.
I know Lughnasadh has come and gone at this point, but maybe this will help for the next occasion?
Cheers.
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Hello and welcome to the forum. Even in the most serious things there is something funny, but one should not make the serious funny and vice versa.
I wish you health!
Tihomir Valchev 
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Greetings and blessing three fold
I would do your own thing, without drawing attention.
I am fortunate that my hubby supports my “witchy” stuff fully. He even purchased my first book on the subject for valentines day.
El Hombre Bruja
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How was your day? I hope you were able to celebrate in a way that felt meaningful to you.
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Hi Jenny… we did a little lunch in the end but I didn’t make a thing of it being lughnasadh or anything. Odd thing is it’s been accepted in this house that, although I do the whole Christmas dinner thing, we celebrate Yule… and Samhain not halloween… so I guess the idea is to just keep brining these things in and they’ll eventually ‘accept’ them… trouble is I look for validation way to much… definitely something I need to work on.
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I did say I wanted to celebrate it - I get half of them not caring in a ‘oh she’s off again’ kind of way 
and my daughter who was ‘oh people only go for these revisionist made up religions because they’re missing something in their lives’. Thanks hon, way to completely negate my life and half of my identity. So that’s why I thought why bother. I really need to stop seeking validation - you’d think at the ripe old age of 57 I’d have got past but hey ho.
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You are lucky indeed to have a supportive husband… mine just humours me I’m sure… and considering his hobby is to build little armies and push them about on pretend battlefields that’s pretty rich
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You are lucky indeed to have a supportive husband… mine just humours me I’m sure… and considering his hobby is to build little armies and push them about on pretend battlefields that’s pretty rich
I used to do that in the 70’s in HS, made armies of plastic middle earth orcs for sand table..
That’s where D&D came from:
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World of Warcraft?
Sometimes that’s the best thing, especially if you know your family is more on the judgemental side. I could see how you could disguise Lughnasadh or Beltaine even in a picnic or outdoor party with some creativity.
LOL, sounds like a tabletop wargame like Warhammer 40k. If that’s the case it looks like they have an entire category of fantasy-themed wargames. You could ask him about those and humor him by offering to play together! In an innocent way of course. 
Cheers. 
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That’s what I thought too
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Warhammer … sometimes 40K but usually just Blood Bowl… he has two of every team and sometimes (for special occasions) three
Yes Warhammer although mostly Blood Bowl - honestly I’ve played a few times but I’ll NEVER remember all the rolls and strengths and whatevers… I guess you have to be interested and I’ve tried but it just not me 
and it really is his neurodivergent specialist subject … I mean he know EVERYTHING about it
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Oh man, lol…
I’ve never played Warhammer/Blood Bowl or any tabletop wargame. I have played D&D and other tabletop rpgs, but not those. I’m afraid I can’t help you there. lol!