Nice! I’m just Bi aka Pan - I love men and women, whether they’re cis or not. 
I’ve always been deeply concerned on the issue of men’s mental health, especially in America. Of course people are adults and are responsible, but even so, men need a third space that they can feel emotionally safe in, so they can process their traumas too. The fact that some may feel that way is criminal, but it’s the fear itself that’s the biggest issue. Men need to be aware that not every therapist is going to be that way - and that they still deserve to get the kind of therapy they need…
Hm… I’m not sure what the best way would be to go about that… we’ll see what she says when she returns.
Cheers.
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Oh, I neglected this. The whole mid-life crisis and looking outside for validation.
My dad did this, and I know how it effected us all, on a personal level.
It’s a common enough trend, always has been. But, I was deeply and intimately
effected by the fallout as a child that I vowed never to be that way. It goes deep.
And so I haven’t, but still not dealt with the trauma in a way that let me forgive him.
You’ve not mentioned if you have kids, so I won’t go further down this rabbit hole.
But, what do I know? He kept his marriage together while mine fell apart. Dilemma.
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TBH, if there is a spell or ritual to help give him the strength to resist temptation, that would be helpful! I should mention that the third party is his employee! My husband owns a trucking company so she drive for him. I’m assuming this is why there a high chance of the two reconnecting. They see each other daily, what an ugly situation I am in. We have 3 girls, our oldest knows what is going on unfortunately… the two are too young (toddler and NB).
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Thanks! I’ll give this a try 
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At the moment he no longer living with me. I haven’t spoken to him in week only texted him about our kids here and there. What do you suggest I do in order to keep an eye on things?
Terrific Tuesday Bb,
I am not sure you need consent as Wren intimated. What you are doing is for “you and yours”, so I do not think a consent is warranted. As for the cord and candles acting as they did, I am not sure. But it DOES sound like the “message was received”.
I wish you well, in finding a solution. I, also, am having serious problems with my husband, but not your particular issue. Although, he is convinced I have a boyfriend. Why do men always think that a woman NEEDS/WANTS a man? Just because I try to avoid him, does NOT mean that there is somebody else!!! Lady Gene 
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The situation you are in makes it very hard on you and keeping track on things.
About the best I can think of is writing a binding type of spell, but could back fire if not done correctly.
Tantalizing Tuesday Bb,
So you asked about cord-cutting. I use a knot binding spell. Very simple, easy, I’m gonna give you a basic “spell” but feel free to change the wording how it suits you…
Take a cord, at least 5 feet, up to 8-9.
I take my cord, and fold it in half, because I am a short person.
So, I fold it in half, make knot in the middle speak you wish/will, “with this knot of one, this has begun….”; change to one end…”with this knot of two, the spell comes true”; other end, knot and say, “with this knot of three, I am [free, be, whatever rhymes with 3, just because I love rhyme]. You literally sleep on it for 3 nights. Put it under your pillow, in the pillow case; I put mine between the box springs and mattress up by my head. After three nights, you undo everything, rhyme again….With this knot of one, this spell is done, as you untie the 3rd knot (untie in backwards knots, 3 then 2 then1); next one “with this knot of two, this is true (notice, present tense, because you KNOW that it is happening); with this knot of three, so mote it be” So mote it be, is another way of saying amen, so be it.
Hope this works out for you, sweetheart. Lady Gene 
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Um, male ego? Insecurity?
If one’s mate is refusing the meal, then she must be eating out somewhere else!
Male libido is all we men know, but the female libido is very different, so to apply the
male model on a women is bound to fail. Women my age it’s hard to even find a
woman who wants a man at all.
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Just because he’s her husband doesn’t mean she has ownership of him or his will. Couple that with the fact that he requested that she give him his space, and that hey are also almost fully separated, doing the spell in this circumstance would have accrued her some negative karma.
I could elaborate on this further, as someone who grew up learning karmic law through the lens of Theosophy, and now for a few months through the lens of Hinduism and Buddhism through studying their old texts… kind of a moot point though, since he’d found out and kind of dismissively gave it.
Cheers. 
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Terrific Tuesday Wren,
I see your point. Thank-you for clearing that up. Lady Gene
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I definitely do not want to bind him from his free will. If he wanted to break things off, I wouldn’t stop him. He wanted his space to figure his problems out himself, I totally respect that. Especially cause he was causing a lot of negativity in the household with his behavior. I simple wanted to see if there was something to give him the strength from temptation from this women that holds absolutely no value. (She rents a bedroom, doesn’t have full custody of her child). I get bad vibes from her. I’ve heard from other truck drivers she using him for money, even though he dumps all his money into his business 
. If he initiated the break off, he may just be at a valuable point, he broke his family, lost his home, financially unstable. Although this is all his doing, I still care of his well being. He still the father of my kids.
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I’mma gonna assume that autocorrected from ‘vulnerable point’.
Yes, my ex still cares for my well being, at least that what she says.
I am not the decider in the divorce, I have no power in it. A leaf in the wind.
I just wished my adult kids called once in a while. The one. nothing at all.
Even my ex regrets the divorce that she initiated. Would not recommend.
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Ohhh ok I’m beginning to see the picture here. There may be something, but I’m afraid I’m drawing a total blank right now so I’ll let the others take over.
Cheers. 
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I hope things go well for you as well! It’s very difficult time and hope your able to find peace to the solution your in 