Super Sunday Red,
Thankyou for understanding!!! Lady Gene 
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Cleaning was MY job, cooking was hers. (I am not any sort of cook, burn even water)
So I did all the dishes, etc. Only fair.
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Merry Monday Mages,
Cleaning or cooking is not the problem, the issue is that they treat me like their maid. I mean, they pull the scissors out to cut something, then leave it on the counter. Who the H*** takes 4 spoons to eat a bowl of cereal and a peanut butter sandwich (then leaves a mess all over the counter, they can’t even wipe off the crumbs. hey, I get the kitchen gets messy, not an issue, just a little common decency is wiping things down…why make it even messier?) This is what I’m talking about. I get it, I wipe down the counters and fridge handles and micro daily….just can’t you “pick-up” after yourself, that’s all. (Like, they heat stuff in the micro, it pops gets everywhere….do they wipe it down? NOOOOOOO, they’re al 25 and older.
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Sorry, soapbox, not a good weekend….gonna hide in bed today…..Lady Gene
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I’d be tempted to refuse to do any of their cleaning then… and make it clear that you won’t be from now on. The clearly have no respect for you, so you’re going to have to enforce something here somehow. Stepping back and making a hard boundary should get the ball rolling… that’s my two cents anyway.
Cheers.
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When I first moved out of my parents home, I moved in with two room-mates. They also
abused me. Did things like you mention, and worse. Ate all the food I bought, no contribution
of their own. A sink full of dishes. A mess on the table, flies everywhere. I had enough, and
cooked in my own room. Kept all under my bed, had a hot plate, and a microwave. Not exactly
healthy eating, but my food was now MINE. Cans mostly, no fridge. PB & Jelly on bread.
Didn’t enter the kitchen again. Landlord kicked them out eventually. (a farmhouse)
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That’s awful … but hey, you found a way draw your boundaries and get your agency back. Can’t have been pleasant during that transition, but it got you through to the point of freedom! lol…
Cheers. 
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Sedim,
Way back about 1985 I had two male roommates who did the same thing to me. I stopped eating at the home and stopped doing anything in the kitchen. One day when the sink was overflowing with dishes, one guy asked why I hadn’t washed. My response was, none of the dishes are mine. Never did dishes there again. Doing the same here at home. The sink is chock-full of dishes, I make what I want, then wash just those. I don’t think the guys here are getting the hint. My son and I only eat every other day (diet that seems to work for us both), however, the other guys, eat enough in one meal to last me a whole week. Husband, nephew and grandson eat almost 2-3 pounds of meat aday, in addition to everything else. I think they go through more than 2 loaves of bread a week. I tried when everyone was here to keep up, but I have never seen people eat sooo much food daily. I was not able to keep enough food in the fridge for them (being on the bus, it was hard to bring enough home)….so my husband is doing their food now. Not only do I not cook enough, but I am NOT Mexican, I make Asian, Italian and American food, and they don’t like that. I actually had my husband say to me, “make the soup the way my grandmother did”—
I don’t know what it’s supposed to taste like anyway, much less how your grandmother used to. I just had to give up on that. I make vegetarian for my son and myself, and the super carnivores, my husband takes care of. Well, looks like I got “on a yap” again.
Terrific Tuesday all, Lady Gene
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Happy March everyone!
The lunar eclipse was stunning here on the west coast. I was happy to wake up 30 minutes before it started, and stayed up until peak, and a little afterwards (by then the fog rolled in and covered it up). Then back to bed and reality the following morning.
I’ve started something new with having 2 journals for the lunar cycles. One to manifest in, between the New Moon and Full Moon (waxing cycle), and then a releasing journal, between the Full Moon and the New Moon (waning cycle). And I am physically writing. It has been absolutely lovely, and I highly recommend it. I believe it is the pen to paper connection with the mind, versus typing stuff out. Nothing wrong with a digital journal either (I also have one of those), but something about the physical practice of writing is so cathartic.
Otherwise, I am doing my best to stay grounded during these trying and insane moments of history, while creating and managing my own chaotic life. Mostly, I am just feeling tired.
I called out my city’s mayor as well - telling him and a room full of older folks that they won’t be around in 30 years, and what they are doing now…is not helping. I’m thinking of sending a follow up email.
But yeah. It’s just been a heck of a time so far in March. As a Mercury ruled, big 3 all mutable signs, this has been fun lol
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Terrific Tuesday my Sibling Sorcerers,
SPOILER ALERT This is a serious rant/yap. Read at “your own risk”
Well, I have been “studying” the last few years, before my daughter even died in 2024, since “waking up” from my coma more fully, Narcissism. I think that is my husband. My son and I have talked about it the last couple years and he thinks the same.
What I considered diligence, is manipulation!! When my daughter died, he made me take the bus back and forth to the hospital!! Then when she died, he down-littled my feelings and thought my sadness was Bull***. He offered to drive me to get her ashes, and on the way, bitched at me the whole time. So, it is not a question of why I try to stay away from him, it’s more the question, of why do I stay…..I’m trying to work on the why….I honor marriage commitments (unlike my ex-husband, my current husband is NOT a pedophile…just a control freak). So, I guess I have to deal with it, and I don’t have children to worry about this time. I made the mistake in marrying the wrong person….MY MISTAKE. But, need to honor the commitment. He only “helps” you to hold it over your head later. “After what I did, this is what you do for me?” Yeah, I had a car-accident, coma, he “took care” of me, but now keeps reminding me of his “sacrifice” and how I “owe him”. I’ve tried to explain, that even though I have made a semi-comeback, I will NEVER become my old self. TBI, the paramedics, thought I was already dead when they found me. So, no, I will never be the same, but I have made a pretty good come-back. Doctors thought I would remain in a coma, and if, I woke up, I may not walk nor talk again. Well, took me 6 months to talk (my jaw was broken, and I lost feeling on the left side of my face, so talking was difficult.) It probably took about 5-6 years where I could talk with little trouble. OHHHHHH, so how much he “sacrificed” to take care of me. UMMMM, if it was the other way around, I’d take care of him, because that is marriage, but I would not hold it over his head as a weapon.
WOW….think I got that out. Whoever reads, thank-you for taking the time. This is almost cathartic for me.
Lady Gene Yes, I switched to the Phoenix, because I AM rising from the ashes.
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That is mind blowing! It would take me over a week to eat one of those meals by the sound of it.
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Red, I know!!! I don’t get it……………Lady Gene 
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Of course! Why do you think I post so much! I’ll talk about anything at all, so tell me if I go too far.
I was astounded by how much meat that was too! How big are these guys!? lol!
I guess I’ll add a small update. Was having a decent day until my detox kicked in about halfway through. Have now been dealing with an incredible headache. 
Yaaay…
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Hope you feel better soon! It sux I know.
It almost sounds like they’re on a carnivore diet, but it just might be the
Mexican cuisine. It’s pretty meat heavy, I think. I can’t eat much of it,
as I’m a super-taster and the peppers just kill me. 
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Thanks! I’m taking it as I can… Maybe tomorrow will be better.
That’s true, hispanic cooking is very meat-heavy. Spice isn’t a problem for me - in fact I love spicy cuisine and exotic flavors - Pho? 
Thai Curry? 
It’s too much wheat, heavy grease and meat that’s hard on my stomach.
Have a good night - 
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Weird Wednesday Wren and Sedim,
I hope you find relief from your headache. Aspirin was “inspired” by the white willow bark. I cannot take aspirin because of my heart, and anything stronger really makes me loopy and weird. So, I take the white willow bark. It comes in about the same potency as aspiring (325mg a caplet). I take 2 of those and they start to work in 15-30 minutes.
Yes, they are just Heavy eaters—I blame it on slow metabolism; none are over weight, but they all happen to be close to 6 feet and “big-boned” but NOT overweight or fat. Just large people. They’re metabolism sucks, if they have to eat that much. My metabolism is the opposite. If I even look at anything made of wheat, I’ll gain three pounds. If I eat just one regular portioned meal in one day, I will gain about 1 pound. (yes, I’m on thyroid med).
We had a dealer that ate 3-4 HUGE plates during 8 hour shifts, and worked a 2nd job after. I used to make fun of her and say she HAD to work the 2nd job to afford to feed herself. Talk about fast-metabolism, she ate all that food every day, and only weighed 87lbs. She was really impressed with herself when she inched up to 92 pounds!!! Wren I love meat and spice…it’ll just turn me into a balloon. Lady Gene 
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I feel like I’m reading a DM/PM (or whatever kind of M is in favor these days) from IRL family when I read this thread. Where else can one rant and rave and make oneself vulnerable without the fear of some ass attacking? I like it! BTW Lady-Gene, I can’t relate - all female, dad split when I was a toddler and I only had sisters, then married and only had daughters. I’m blessed that way.
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Good Morning Lady Gene,
Thank you! It’s definitely better today.
Unfortunately I can’t take most painkillers due to my own medication too. (And trying to get off of said medication.) Even White Willow might be risky. 
99% of my headaches stem from my hyper-mobile neck, so usually releasing the muscles in my neck fixes most of the headache.
That’s crazy!! I have a fast metabolism too, but it’s gotten better since I cut most wheat and did some serious gut healing. At least in my case it was gut inflammation/absorption issues. Before I was 97 lbs and couldn’t go higher - now I stay around 110-115. 115 is pretty ideal for my height.
Cheers.
LOL! I’ve had that thought too. These are like the echo-ing grounds of the grand canyon. Just shout into the ether because no-one seems to mind. I just call them DMs no matter what platform I’m on. Everyone knows what that means.
Good to see you here again my friend ~ 
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Manic Marcus 
(said with humor),
After my daughter died, I only have guys. And out of 7 grandkids, only 1 girl. Lady Gene
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OMG! Who’d you piss off in a past life? 
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