Way Off Topic: The Witch Dating Saga

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OK, I asked AI to find me a dating service that:

  1. Must have a web-based service, not just phone app.
  2. Must be active in my area with a large client base.
  3. Should not have an overly large number of complaints for scams.
  4. Don’t want one operated by Match dot com but if owned but not operated it’s OK.
  5. must have a wide variety of Religion labels for detailed searches.

It recommended eHarmony and SilverSingles and Xian dating services.
(Also added OurTime, but I know the Religion choices SUCK it’s Match)
Asked for Pagan friendly recommendations for above criteria:

PaganDating.com

Focus: Specifically for Pagans, Wiccans, and those interested in the Craft.
Web Access: Fully functional website.
Religion Labels: Very specific (Wicca, Druidry, Heathenry, Eclectic, etc.).
Chicago Activity: Moderate. You will likely find users, but the volume will be lower than general sites.
Safety Note: Smaller niche sites can sometimes be targets for scammers looking for vulnerable users. Crucial: Verify profiles carefully. Look for users who link to external social media or have been members for a long time.

Mingle2 (Free Section)

Focus: A general free dating site that has a surprisingly active “Pagan” and “New Age” community section.
Web Access: Yes, web-based.
Religion Labels: Users can select specific tags.
Chicago Activity: High. Because it is free and has a large general user base, the absolute number of Pagans in Chicago here might be higher than on a tiny niche site.
Safety Note: Being free, it has a higher volume of spam/scam attempts. You must be vigilant. Filter strictly by location and look for verified photos.

OkCupid

Focus: Known for having the most inclusive and detailed identity options of any major site.
Religion Labels: They allow users to select “Pagan,” “Wiccan,” “Druid,” “Heathen,” etc., and even write custom answers to prompts about spirituality.
Web Access: Excellent web interface.
Chicago Activity: Very high. Chicago is a hub for OkCupid users.
Senior Friendliness: The interface is modern and can be a bit text-heavy, but it is very accessible.
Safety: They have good blocking/reporting tools, though being free/freemium, you will encounter more spam than on eHarmony.

The thing with ALL dating services is YOUR success goes exactly COUNTER to the company

profitability. So, getting you a quick, final match is CONTRARY to the company interests. :frowning:

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Tried eHarmony first, next one will be OKCupid but want to ask my kid first on tips they’re on it.

Here are the religion labels available on eHarmony (My own screenshot):

EHarmony Religions
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That’s like FOUR TIMES the choices that are available on Match, where the only choice there

for Pagans is ‘Other’, ‘Spiritual but not Religious’, and ‘I don’t want to say’. Pagan choices Here!

For the time being last choice is most open, but as a non-paying member you don’t get to pick

preferences for who you look for, probably can’t even match until you fork over $$$.

Not gotten a paid membership yet, I learned to avoid the ‘deals’ with 3 month min etc. just

get the cheapest/shortest to ‘Try it out’ but I’m not pulling the trigger until I see OKCupid.

EDIT: Probably will try Mingle2 before OKCupid, since it’s free. EDIT: Metaphysical choice here!

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Here are some other ones from an old AI inquiry that I-kid-you-not my Familiar did :

Dating Service for Witches?

There are indeed a few niche dating platforms that cater specifically to people who identify as witches, Wiccans, pagans, or who are interested in mystical/spiritual lifestyles. Below are some of the most well‑known services, along with brief descriptions of what each offers:ServiceTarget AudienceKey FeaturesPricing (as of 2024)WiccanDating.comWiccans, witches, pagans, and anyone interested in modern witchcraft• Community forums and events
• Detailed profile sections for spiritual practice, rituals, and beliefs
• Private messaging and “match” algorithm based on shared magical interestsFree basic membership; premium plans start at ~ $9.99 / month for unlimited messaging and profile boostsWitches & WizardsBroadly inclusive of all magical traditions (Wicca, Druidry, ceremonial magick, etc.)• “Spell‑casting” icebreakers (e.g., send a virtual candle or rune)
• Compatibility quizzes focused on ritual style, deity worship, and ethical codes
• Option to join local coven meet‑upsFree trial for 7 days; full access $12 / month or $120 / yearMysticMatch.comSpiritual seekers, mystics, astrologers, and witches• Integrated astrology charts for compatibility
• “Energy vibe” rating system (high/low, earth/air, etc.)
• Blog with relationship advice from pagan counselorsFree basic account; premium $8 / month (unlimited likes, video chat)PaganCupid (a sub‑site of the larger Cupid network)Pagans of all paths, including witches, druids, and eclectic practitioners• Large user base (over 200k members worldwide)
• Advanced search filters (e.g., “solitary practitioner”, “covens seeking members”)
• Safety tools: photo verification, profile moderationFree sign‑up; paid features $10–$15 / month depending on planWiccaLove.comPrimarily Wiccans and those practicing nature‑based spirituality• Emphasis on long‑term relationships and marriage
• “Ritual match” feature where users can schedule a joint spell‑work session as a first date idea
• Monthly “Full Moon Mixer” virtual eventsFree tier limited to browsing; premium $11 / month
How to Choose the Right Platform

Define Your Practice – If you follow a specific tradition (e.g., Gardnerian Wicca, Traditional Witchcraft, or eclectic path), look for a site that lets you filter by that tradition.
Community vs. Dating Focus – Some sites (like WiccanDating.com) double as community hubs with forums and event listings, which can be great if you want to meet people both romantically and socially. Others (e.g., MysticMatch) are more strictly dating‑oriented.
Safety & Verification – Check whether the platform offers photo verification, moderator oversight, or a reporting system. This is especially important in niche communities where anonymity can sometimes be misused.
Cost Structure – Most services offer a free tier that allows you to create a profile and browse matches, but messaging usually requires a paid subscription. Try a short trial period before committing to a longer plan.

Tips for Successful Witch‑Themed Online Dating

Be Transparent About Your Path: Mention your magical practice, coven affiliation (if any), and any ritual schedules (e.g., Sabbats) in your profile. This helps filter out incompatible matches early.
Use Symbolic Icebreakers: Many platforms let you send a virtual rune, candle, or herb bundle as a first “message.” It’s a fun way to show interest while staying on‑theme.
Respect Boundaries: Not everyone is comfortable sharing spells or performing rituals together right away. Ask permission before suggesting a joint ritual or spell‑casting date.
Participate in Community Events: Virtual Full Moon Mixers, Sabbat celebrations, or local coven meet‑ups are excellent ways to meet potential partners in a low‑pressure setting.

Quick Start Checklist

Choose one or two platforms from the table above that align with your practice.
Sign up for a free account and verify your email/photo (if offered).
Fill out your profile completely—include photos, a short bio, and specifics about your magical path.
Browse matches using filters (e.g., “solitary practitioner,” “covens looking for members”).
Send a symbolic icebreaker (rune, candle, etc.) to start a conversation.
If the connection feels right, suggest a low‑key first date—perhaps a coffee shop followed by a brief walk under the moon, or a virtual “spell‑casting” session.

Bottom line: Yes, there are several dedicated dating services for witches and other pagan practitioners. By selecting a platform that matches your spiritual focus and following the etiquette tips above, you’ll increase your chances of finding a compatible partner who shares your magical worldview. Happy hunting!

I did sign up for a few Wiccan sites before Match, they did not work out that well:

  1. All owned by the same company
  2. Tiny user base, no recommendations
  3. I don’t want to pay money to six or seven different services that have so few users.
  4. Some were phone-only which is a deal breaker for me.

I was on Bumble they went App-Only but they sucked the same TINY religion choices as Match.

EDIT: References I can post quickly:

https://www.datingadvice.com/online-dating/pagan-dating-sites

https://www.datingadvice.com/online-dating/wiccan-dating-sites

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Thanks for the mini-guides! This is a hell of a topic, lol. I totally understand why you made it.

And then of course there’s vetting those services even more to see if there’s any LGBT friendliness or a solid user-base for those orientations. As a Bi woman, this is my pickle.

I know Hinge is kind of big in the LGBT community - but I think it still has the same problems as all the other ones. And I have no idea if it has the kind of religious customizations you’re talking about. :trident_emblem:

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My Transmasc son is on OKCupid he wouldn’t be there if it wasn’t safe space!

The Wiki link up above captures that data in their table.

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What a fun topic! This is a lot of info! That being said, I’m ace and pagan. I’m probably considered a hard swipe :joy:

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My son was AroAce for like a decade of so, things change. And there are Pagan-Only services.

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I gather Ace isnt one of four cards in a deck of playing cards?