This is gonna be long, so be prepared!
Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. After i first met him i did a love spell on him. I usually never do love spells, but i somehow convinced myself that it was okay in this case. At the time i just lost my job and a grandparent, and it was near christmas season. I felt like there was one thing that could make me happy if i worked to get it. It was a jar spell that pretty much bound him to me in love.
Welp, it worked. Thing is, we are not compatable. Over time i began to realize we are polar opposites. The only thing we relate to is the love of mysticism. He doesnt practice witchcraft, but he supports my craft and does have interest. Otherwise, on mundane stuff its different. Our viewpoints on life and values are different, he wants a wife and kids and i dont wanna have kids and be a wife. His father who he still lives with is abusive and has also been a verbal menace towards me and my own family.
Binding certainly worked, because me and my guy now work at the same company, same building. I see him nearly every day of the week. And honestly? I still love him, but i know this won’t work out. He has to rely on me for a lot of things because he is behind a bit in “adulting” if that makes sense, but he is working on that. It is all draining on me (alongside current work burnout) to the point of depression. But since i still love him, it really hurts to think of me leaving him (he is my first relationship). He honestly treats me well and genuinely loves me to the moon and back, but i know other things hang over that.
Im sorry for that being a relationship dump lol, i just wanted to give word on the major result of the love spell. I usually have confidence in my craft and have done good change before, but nothing is able to do much for this so far. What is your advice? Not relationship advice, but what works well to change things for the better after getting a result you ended up not liking? Im at a loss right now. I also no longer have the spell jar, i since dismantled, cleansed, and got rid of it.