Hi @KeldanSecond - this is a delightful and kind offer - thank you for your energy.
I am at a major crossroads in my life, and a work place ‘drama’ has been causing me serious and extreme emotional and physical distress. I am also about to graduate and have a sense of anxiety that I must persist into a Masters program quickly, or there is a threat to a ‘good’ future for me, in the case that I took any time to recouperate some energy and bandwidth.
There is also a sense that I must select “the” area I need to be in to co-ordinate my best outcomes. My options are vast, and I see my blessing in that, but the stakes feel wildly high. In the next move I make, my partner will also have to redesign their life - the pressure to choose wisely is another stressor at this time.
I suppose my ask is - what do you sense is the most essential thing to truly focus on now to meet my highest good? Is there a direction or definition you get when considering my career/education journey?
Sending my care and gratitude - your input would feel grounding.
Sooo sorry to hear what your lady did! My husband seems to “put up” with what I do, but has made some deriding comments about my craft. I jus let it fly in one ear and out the other.
If she left you for your practice, sounds like she wasn’t really “in” the relationship anyway. Yes, I know it is hard. I’ve been going through crap (seriously about 4 years) lately and have had enough!! If my man cannot accept who/what I am….he is more than welcome to “walk”. I have spent 61 years of my life living the way others expected/wanted….job, kids (17 when I had my first, ran away first at age 5, she left me alone when I was 14), everything for everyone else, me not even 2nd….5th? Anyway, “for better for worse”, many people don’t honor that, it is only “for better” because when “for worse” comes around they bail on you.
WildRose, I do not really have anything constructive or helpful. Just know that your happiness in life and this world, is not conditioned on whether someone else is in your life. Everyone has the ability to be happy in their own circumstances (Stoic philosophy). When you stop looking, it will fall into your lap. Don’t give up!!
This isn’t a reading, (and I’m not trying to hijack this thread), but perhaps some questions to contemplate are: what’s your highest priority in making your decision? Is it your partner? Is it you? Or something else? Is there a “middle ground”?
Making tough decisions can certainly be stressful, but also try to have faith that it will turn out alright in the end. The fear itself is your biggest enemy - don’t make the decision out of fear, try to make it out of love.
If you’re overwhelmed, do whatever you can to get yourself out of that headspace before you make your decision, so you’re making it with a clear head. Walks in a park or in nature, engaging in a hobby, meditation, talking with a close friend, and therapeutic self-care are just a few options to clear your head and ground yourself.
This didn’t feel hi-jacked, at all, thank you for this. I had to chew on Kaden’s response and understand that despite me feeling as though I could maybe ask in a more clever way, that the very basis of the CHOICE being mine to weigh was not going to change, no matter how clever I got.
The decision is an unfolding, rather than a point. A great difficulty I have had is finding a solid sense of grounding in the recent past, and walks and breaks or simple joys have not been a priority despite my knowing their beautiful power. The reminder to keep it simple is very useful to actively accept as THE advice for my original query. DEEP bow of gratitude
Le Sigh. I know this is correct, and I would like to force this weight outside myself, while the truth is the weight is BECAUSE the choice is only for me to make. thank you.
Alternatively - I have been considering going to take a brief trip to see my family. This has about a 50-50 chance of feeling stabilizing and rejuvenating or quite something else. Would you recommend I take that trip in the coming weeks, if I set out in the mindset that it would be cup-filling? Anyone else I should spend some time with in the coming weeks that would help my sense of stability and connection?
@sheesh I wouldn’t recommend taking a trip to see your family right now. Since you’re graduating soon, they’ll nag you about your education choices. But you can consider taking a trip with your girlfriend, just the two of you, somewhere else. You can go anywhere in the next few weeks, and it should take quite some of the stress off of you.
I tried to find the way to private message you here, but I couldn’t find one, so I can’t go into details. The particular health issue is still a huge concern. And it isn’t something I can get into in a public forum. Can you tell me anything further about the man you see me with? I’m having trouble getting out right now. Is timing a concern?
i want to learn mineralogy/petrology/geochemistry for my master’s degree, which means i will have to switch from chemical emgineering to geosciences, i’m not sure if i can successfully do this…are there anything i have to keep in mind?
@Drew The reading shows that your daughter is renting, while your son has his own place. It also indicates that your son will be in a stronger position to support you than your daughter, and that there’s a natural father-son bond there as well.
You should be able to receive retirement benefits from Australia. They aren’t much, but they can still cover basics like groceries and allow you to save the rest. The move to Melbourne is better for you than Sydney.
@PTCLIFL Pursuing petrology would be in your best interest for your master’s degree. Since petrology is a sub discipline of geology, a direct switch into geology is the best. If you’re choosing between programs, pick a geology degree rather than geosciences, since geology is more specialized.
When you apply, highlight the skills you’re bringing from chemical engineering especially analytical problem solving, lab techniques, and your experience with scientific instrumentation. You should also connect with a faculty staff member at your current institution so they can guide you on the best way to transition.
