Hi! I’m new here, and I need some help with interpreting this cord cutting ritual I did a while ago. So first things first, I was in a relationship with a guy, and it was not a good one. I did this cord cutting ritual to release whatever ties we still have as I wanted to heal and grow. And at first, both of our candles were burning evenly. But as they both reached towards the cord, wax started dripping from both sides (I have read it means tears). The next thing, his candle burned the cord first, but as the fire from his end was approaching, the flame in my candle suddenly went out abruptly, but the cord now remained on my side. My first question is what does it mean? And after that, I decided to relit my candle about 5 minutes later (Idk if I was really supposed to do it), but somehow mine still burned out first than his. Though, my candle became messy, like there were tears forming it. What does this also mean? I hope someone will kindly interpret these to me ^^
Merry Morning Daffodil!!!
I am not well versed in candle magick, but it kind of sounds like he may be “stronger” than you are because of your candle going out. Maybe try a protection spell for you also, and maybe a binding spell for him, too. It seems like the “cutting-cord” just is not strong enough. Use ALL your power, strength of mind, visualization, literally feel the need in your gut…..these are what make the actions of the spells so strong….the intent. That is the most important….INTENT….not, what you say, what you use, how many times you turn around…..it is YOUR mind, learning to use the “elements” (what-have-you) to your advantage. I look at it this way….I do not need to KNOW how the microwave works….I just need to know how to use it. With that said, your magick is your POWER of you INTENT….not the doo-dads. I don’t think this directly answers your question, but I hope it helps. Ultimately, it is YOU who will discover the meanings.
Merry Monday, Lady Gene 
I see. Thank you for answering! Will probably do more inner work before doing this ritual again ^^
Have you set up protection boundaries around your candles? Seems like it could have been you were left vulnerable and he still holds major influence on you.
Your flame going out could mean you aren’t ready to let go and so you run away (flame going out) this could mean trauma of letting go or you have trouble doing so. As his flame approached, your fear may have ruled out your more stronger desires to let go.
Tears on both ends but it would be alot harder for you, its not an endeavour that you can heal and get better from quickly. It would lead to as they say, a tower moment where upheaval and chaos reigns first before you can heal 
All those messy emotions and hardships faced will be the ones you need to face first. His flame being on your end could also be seen as he doesnt want to let go just yet but he has burnt the cord first signalling that he isnt as attached as he seems but he isnt quite ready to lose you for reasons known to only him. As Im writing this, I have a feel that he may be somewhat of a narcissist.
Your first step before your next cord cutting 
, should be processing everything you’ve been through. Take a moment and let your thoughts free, then when you’re calm enough, redo it. Set up your boundaries and protection with salt and chilli flakes or black pepper if you have them, then focus your intentions on your candle again. Take a deep breath, chant if you feel like it or visualise your intentions going into your candle 
Take what resonates, and leave what doesnt. Cord cutting is a very big step in cutting off someones influence so Im proud of you for taking this step into healing